I find it pretty common that the stress in many situations seems to be the inherent lack on understanding we gain through poor communication, at least when it comes to the people who have the ability to listen to each other and just forget about taking the time to do it (communicate). The last weeks here in the Park have been a bit quirky due to something that had been built up out of someones imagination. Something that was quite easily remedied by communicating.
I guess from an outside perspective others (may) interpret me as this alpha type, and i would just as soon walk away from most things because they seem a bit pointless, given the big picture, and this is often misunderstood about me. I admit that very little frightens me about anyone and I assume that they might consider that a threat.
The fact is that truth is often a compromise between people and is based in acceptance. If i can accept another’s reason (taking the time to understand their motive) even though I may not agree with their intention, I don’t have to because it is their work and not my responsibility [horrible uncorrectable sentence]. We all learn something through our own trials and the choices that create them, so who am I to interfere with that process. And, if something they are choosing has some effect in my life, I am uncomfortable with, I have several choices; one I can walk away from the situation, or (if I believe it important) I can communicate my truth about it. Sure there are other options like conflict or destroying their autonomy, but where does that lead. It’s just attachment in disguise.
I had another opportunity this week to see it in every variation, before I finally realized what was happening, and I sometimes wonder how we remember anything at all. I mean what is it we are suspicious of in the first place that causes us to forget the things that seemed so simple when we realized them in the first place. Are we so complex that we can’t ever truly accept what needs no proof, is it a need for accomplishment that keeps us constantly striving for the beyond and complex. In any case I do hope that someday it will all seem to simple to forget!
